The words Should and Need are subliminally manipulative. These two words carry with them a sense of enforced pressure and the idea that if desired outcome X is not achieved, then something negative will occur. When these two words are used to describe the (potential) actions of others, these words become command and control statements.

For example, “You should eat better food”. “You need to eat better food”. “You should change your thoughts”, “You need to change your thoughts”.

All cases of the above examples subvert the free will of the person listening while subliminally implying a threat that something bad will happen if the person doesn’t obey the command.

When should and need are applied with I statements, the results aren’t any better.

“I should should think better thoughts”. “I need to eat better food”.

These statements place the speaker into the “wrong”, assuming a stance that the person speaking is out of alignment with their own integrity and in the role of a victim.

Rather then saying “should and need”, instead say “I choose” or “I invite you”.

“I choose to think better thoughts.” “I invite you to eat better food”.

By saying I choose and I invite, we shift the subliminally perspectives of our words from force, pressure, and misalignment to an empowered stance that upholds the free will of ourselves and others.